Fosterwee got some blog love from Fosterhood today. Carrie and I reacted simultaneously: Oh crap — now we have to start writing in our blog.
It would be hard to overstate how famous Fosterhood is in our house; if we were featured in the Times it wouldn’t have been as big a deal.* We read the blog, discuss it, laugh about it, refer to it pretty constantly. Our families call us when something exciting happens to Rebecca. During one of my personal interviews with our agency, I mentioned that I knew all about what it would be like to return a child in our care back to her parents because I’ve been reading the saga of Jacket. (The social worker had no idea what I was talking about. Thankfully I didn’t go on to say that I understood the theory of relativity because I read a biography of Einstein, or that I knew all about being President from watching West Wing.)
I don’t have the skill set of a successful blogger. My favorite bloggers post religiously, without excuses, no matter what’s going on. They post long or short, happy or sad, sane or crazy. Like Ichiro, they get a hit or two every day and steadily create a compelling 3,000 hit narrative.
Carrie has the discipline to be that blogger. (Yup, she’s consistent, in addition to being brilliant and beautiful.) I do not. I’m likely to write five entries tonight and slack off until December. I’m likely to start writing and then “research” an Aaron Sorkin hyperlink and spend an hour reading about his upcoming HBO show. I’m likely to be Pete Reiser, teasing with potential.
But if Fosterhood says we’re bloggers, we kind of have to blog. Which is probably why we told her, right?
A couple years ago when Carrie and I made the decision that foster care was the way we wanted to add to our family, we told a bunch of people. We didn’t say this to each other at the time, but what we were doing was creating a community to hold us accountable. If friends and family were asking us how the process was going, we should probably have an update for them.
We want to blog because we want to document our foster journey for fosterwees and for ourselves. We want to blog because we want to assembly a community of elders and learn from their experiences. We want to blog because we might eventually be helpful to other foster families. If folks are reading our blog, we should probably have updates for them.
Darn you, Fosterhood.
* Carrie and I also think that Ellis Paul and Carrie Newcomer are famous rock stars. We might not always be plugged in to the zeitgeist.
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