And I am just thinking and thinking and thinking about the concept of permanency. And how everyone talks about it but no one gives a shit about it. The constant court postponements, the inept and incompetent bureaucrats, the changes back and forth, the lack of accountability, the lack of empathy and human kindness. Everyone waiting for everything to be perfectly aligned so that we can have permanency. Guess what – nothing will ever be perfectly aligned, somethings just will not change. So decide. How can anyone possibly believe that a life of insecurity and uncertainty is best for a child?
And I am not advocating for adoption every time here or even most of the time – I think that biological parents get the shaft over and over and over. I’ve said it before, the amount of time, money and resources that are put into child welfare via foster care subsidies and court costs would be so much better applied if we simply turned our attention to helping people in trouble, to acknowledging the crushing and dehumanizing impacts of racism and poverty. But no, we want to pretend that we are interested in helping families and reunification but we’re really interested in ass covering and politics.