Blitzen’s old bed had drawers underneath, handy. But the new fancy canopy bed does not. I do wish I could post the videos that Blitzen has made of herself giving, I don’t know – tours?? of her new bed and explaining how to arrange the curtains and the pillows and why canopy beds are just the greatest. Totally adorable.
Any way, Andrew and I were out hunting for a dresser and stopped in an antiquey/second-hand furniture place and found just what we needed. A skinny but tall dresser, painted a lovely shade of blue with enamel drawer pulls – each with a little pink rose painted on them. I was worried that Blitzen might be annoyed that it was used (not sure she that is into shabby chic) but it was a bargain, and so lovely, and I am really trying to make sure that her room doesn’t look like I ordered the entire thing right off the Pottery Barn website (not that there is anything wrong with Pottery Barn). But she really likes it. We worked together to clean it up with Murphy’s Oil soap, it fits perfectly in her room. She worked very hard to organize her clothes and put them in the drawers — she had a definite plan. It was really great. And then (seriously people, I could swoon at this next part) she asked if she could do her own laundry from now on. Um, yes, my darling child, you can. She started right away, lovingly sorting the whites from the colors.
It has been the summer of growing independence. I might be crazy (ok, I am definitely crazy but putting that aside) I think the layout of this home is really a key component. She is so comfortable — it is just awesome.
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Posted in Agency, Blitzen, Equity, tagged ACS, agency, Blitzen, Family, Foster care, foster parenting, parenting, permanency on June 27, 2014 |
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And I am just thinking and thinking and thinking about the concept of permanency. And how everyone talks about it but no one gives a shit about it. The constant court postponements, the inept and incompetent bureaucrats, the changes back and forth, the lack of accountability, the lack of empathy and human kindness. Everyone waiting for everything to be perfectly aligned so that we can have permanency. Guess what – nothing will ever be perfectly aligned, somethings just will not change. So decide. How can anyone possibly believe that a life of insecurity and uncertainty is best for a child?
And I am not advocating for adoption every time here or even most of the time – I think that biological parents get the shaft over and over and over. I’ve said it before, the amount of time, money and resources that are put into child welfare via foster care subsidies and court costs would be so much better applied if we simply turned our attention to helping people in trouble, to acknowledging the crushing and dehumanizing impacts of racism and poverty. But no, we want to pretend that we are interested in helping families and reunification but we’re really interested in ass covering and politics.
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What the staff at our agency know and think to be right and the actions that they feel compelled to take by the giant f-ed up bureaucracy that controls all of our lives, well, let’s just say it’s a really long walk.
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