My favorite item is my mermaid tail. It makes me feel like I am home. It gives me a shiver. When I am swimming, all I care about is swimming in my tail.
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Last year, Blitzen had summer school. Good, keeps one semi-focused on reading skills and other things. Plus, it is free. This year, we have to find summer camp. OMG — the exact opposite of free. Luckily, Andrew has the month of July off or one of us would have to sell a kidney.
We’ve been trying to involve Blitzen in this decision but she is very indecisive. An example to illustrate this (and maybe it is not indecisiveness, perhaps it is inattention but whatever) that repeats itself every morning at breakfast, “Blitzen, would you like oj or milk to drink?” The reply is always that last thing, “Milk.” An adult delivers the milk and Blitzen looks at said adult as though the adult has grown a second head and says, “I don’t want milk.” The adult will reply something like, “I think you requested milk.” Blitzen then gets all squinty eyed because she thinks we’re trying to con her somehow, “No I didn’t!” And the adult says, “Well, I guess I misunderstood. You can help yourself to another beverage, if you would like.” She never does but depending on her mood, sulking and crankiness might ensue.
And so it has been with camp. “Blitzen, would like to go to gymnastics camp or drama camp?” “Drama.” “Ok, you’re sure, because we have to commit. I’ll you sign up for drama camp.” Blitzen will say, “I’m not sure.” Hmmmm….
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Yeah, so everyone went and everyone was sent home. The social worker knows nothing. They will reconvene in June. I kind of wish that I didn’t even know about these silly court dates.
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All day last Tuesday, all day today. Blitzen’s lawyer was supposed to see her this weekend and didn’t. Sigh. And then she called Andrew’s cellphone at 3pm yesterday and Andrew said, “Um, I am at work and Blitzen’s at school”. So she said she would call back at 7pm and didn’t so we called her and she said, “This isn’t a good time” and then she called at 8:00pm but Blitzen was in the shower so we called her back at 8:15pm. I don’t know exactly what was said, we gave Blitzen some privacy. After she got off the phone, she was crying but said that she didn’t want to talk about it. Poor baby, so hard to be in this situation and have to tell some stranger on the phone what you want your life to look like and what you don’t want it to look like.
All this back and forth, uncertainty (and I am not just talking about the court case, even simple phone calls are ridiculously hard). This is craziness – not healthy or helpful to parents, kids or fosterparents. So stressful for everyone. We’ve deliberately avoided talking about court dates with Blitzen. She is aware that the judge is working on things, talking to her parents. I am sure that the lawyer revealed that she would be conveying Blitzen’s wishes to the judge directly today. But since Blitzen likes to know exactly what will happen next and precisely when it will happen and since we don’t know anything at all, let alone precisely, we’ve just been talking around the subject.
But we do have a plan should the court ever conclude its business. If there is a judgement, all the kids will be told together at the agency by the social workers – no parents, no foster-parents in the room. If it is termination, then foster-parents will be asked to join at the end of the conversation and we’ll talk about planning for visits moving forward, reassure the children that they will continue visit one another and at least for awhile, visit with their parents routinely at the agency. Then I guess everyone has to figure out the next steps together.
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Last night, Blitzen wanted my attention. She hollered from across the house “Put down your book.” I replied, “It is hard for me to understand you when you are hollering from upstairs. Would you like to say that again, please?” Blitzen came into the room and said, “Please put down your book - B.O.O.K. – book.” Well, I’ll take a little bit sassy if it is paired with spelling any time.
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This year make me smile. What a difference a stimulating, encouraging, nurturing, loving environment makes.
Our main goal for school this year was getting Blitzen to love school and to feel like a valued, successful member of a community of learners. All are agreed – A+ (except our school doesn’t give grades but the many pages of thoughtfully written narrative tell the story).
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